We are always encountering new etiquette situations, and some have come up because social media is rewriting the rules. I was working with a customer who, like most brides, has to cut her guest list for the wedding. She says that whenever one of her friends attends a wedding, they post pictures on their Facebook page of the wedding - no full names or details given, but obviously you can recognize some of the people in the photos.
So her dilemma is this: people who are not invited will see some of the people in the photos who were invited and their feelings will be hurt. Some of her friends will Tweet what a great time they are having at the wedding and others will see those posts. She really feels that this could be a problem for her at work, among her friends and with extended family. What does she do? Is there anything she can do?
It is a different world. Five years ago, you could get away with telling the non-invited, "the wedding is very small," "our families are so large," "my parents invited so many of their friends," "the place only holds 100 people," and chances were that no one saw contradictory wedding pictures later. Your little white lies were never caught. But now, on Sunday, you log into Facebook, and see that half the college sorority was invited (and you weren't), or a lot of people from the office were invited (and you weren't), or that it was a very large wedding (and you didn't make the cut).
This is the first time I've heard a bride genuinely concerned about Facebook pictures and Tweets, but it probably won't be the last.
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